All that she said...

Its strange...but I had completely forgotten how beautiful it is to really care for someone..with all your heart...
It really feels amazing i tell you...it hurts too at times...but its one of those "No pain No gain" kinda things i guess...

Somewhere far far away...
a guy cried today for a girl...a guy, who never thought girls even existed before he met her...and things just changed for him after that...
Sadly this guy is a friend of mine...its sad because there is nothing much I can do to help him...Its the pain each one has to carry when you care for someone...

Tune joh naa kaha,mein woh sunnta raha
Duur jaata raha , pass aata raha...
Khamakhaan bewajah, Khwaab bunntaa raha...
Tune joh naa kaha,mein woh sunnta raha

Somewhere nearby...
I heard a girl speak to me...more like... shout at me ...for the foolishness and childish pranks i have been playing lately...She made me realize a very important thing today...
"You are not 18 anymore!!"

The way she said it...hit me big time...Yes...its high time i come out of my dreamy world...get real...and get out of the hopelessly romantic illusions i have about this thing called LOVE....

I guess it is just hard for us guys to accept that you cannot make a girl care for you like you care for her...
Was telling this to someone the other day...
"You do things for her...and she will only reciprocate if she really feels like it...else its just another thing that happened just another day..."

But then i asked her...in between her shouts..."What do you do when you genuinely care for a person...?"
"Just shut up and keep your feelings aside! Thats the only way out...else you will just be used..Is that what you want?" came the shrewd reply from her.

All that she said made soo much sense...and it was all true...

I wonder what i would have done without a certain few people who are around me...They love you so much that they wont mind shouting at you...hurting you...and telling you the reality...just to help you out!
Thank you for being there always...

Namastey London all the way...

Dont go by the strange title of this post...it actual plays a very important role in our lives these days...really a very important role...

You know how they say...there is always a LOVE STORY happening somewhere...its like...you will never be out of ideas for making a bollywood movie mann...! lol

Ok...back to the movie Namastey London...

I have a friend...and hes in love....and like any love story...there IS a problem...
The girl in question is 3 years elder to him...and even if that can be dealt with...He is not sure if the girl is at all interested...

I sometimes feel its not fair that girls have all the power when it comes to Love...or at least i have not met a situation which works the other way round...
A girl can really decide whether to make or break a guys life mann...now thats really HUGEEE if you ask me...
And knowing that they have this amazing POWER...they really like to play with it...dont they? (Damnn the girls!!)

I mean...I know of guys who have been approached by girls....I myself have been approached by girls...but guys keep it simple...a "NO" is really a "NO"...and thats the end of it...
They dont keep you guessing like girls do...I think...half of a guys time goes in contemplating "What the hell does she mean by that?"
And only experience can teach a guy what to conclude from a "NO" or "May be" or a "I dunno" that a girl gives him...(and these are the words you will hear...not "frequently"...but like...ALL THE TIME!!)

So yes...We are decifering yet another girl and her "reactions"and trying to understand whether she is really interested in the guy or not...coz...you know...its a life changing decision for him...
At 24...getting into a relationship with a girl who is 27...means...dreaming of a wedding and of kids going to school !! (Im sure you know what i mean by that...you are in it...and then there is no way out!)

Ohh yaa...Back to the movie Namastey London...

We were discussing this one day...and we found that this movie is so tactfully made for all the people (read foolish idiots!) who have LOST in the game of love...

There is even a dialogue in the movie which Akshay Kumar says "haan...woh line...joh pyaar mein haar jaate hain , unka dil rakhne ke liye likhhi gayii he..."
LOL

And now...when ever we discuss anything related to LOVE or just plain wanna have fun with the topic of LOVE...we keep reciting the movie dialogues...in our own "heart broken" way...
Some of our favourites are...

"Ishq dii meri mitra pehchaan gii,mit jaayen jadon zidd appnaan dii..."

"Jahaan pyaar hotaa he , wahan naraazgii nahin....Ummeed hoti he..."

"Jab hum dono bhoodhe ho jaayenge...aur mein London aaungaa...yahan aake mein tumhe phone karunga...toh tum mujhse milne jaroor aana...kyunki mere liye tabhhii yeh jaannaa zaroori hoga...ke tum khush toh honaa..."

LOLzz
:-D

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I have had a pretty good weekend...and i would like to keep the "good" feeling all the way...
Right from the funny thing where Dad gifted my Mom a Laptop for their 30th Wedding Anniversarry (I think its cute in a way...but it sure was a strange gift!) ...to the fun i had with my friends...and to the people i made happy (i think!) for their special day ...Its all been good...
TOUCH WOOD!

Ruthless chain

When Donald Trump was asked recently whether he would sacrifice his integrity and character and stab someone in the back or walk over someones trust to get his business done...he answered it with a smile and simply said, "No Comments"

He then went on saying that even though he might never admit it...he has done pure business at times...not bothering about anything else...simply because that is how you get ahead in this world..

I guess that is how it is in Business...you have got to be ruthless all the way...and push people out of the way...
Something that i think i have to realise and act upon in days to come...it always was NOTHING PERSONAL...JUST BUSINESS...!
I dont really agree to this...i mean...you do get personal in relationships and whether you like it or not...every time remaining aloof isnt possible (It amazes me however how some people i know do it with complete ease...thinking of nothing but themselves all the time!)

Have been wondering about how you can just be arrogant and self centered and still get away with it...and i have come to a conclusion that it just doesnt matter...you might loose out on some good people...people who care for you..but then...it wont really affect you in the long run anyway...

Was talking to a school friend about some people i knew back then...
I have known and been friends with people i really cared about...but they never bothered to keep in touch...i tried my best....but eventually...it doesnt matter to them...nor to me...

Strange it is...how someone who hurts and doesnt value friendship while it is still there...might never know how good it could ever have been for him/her...


But thats the way it is....someone does it to you...and you knowingly/ unknowingly do it to someone else...its like a chain...

Missing someone..and I know not who...

CAN MILES TRULY SEPARATE US FROM FRIENDS? IF WE WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WE LOVE, AREN'T WE ALREADY THERE?
- Richard Bach

When the Internet was discovered by a 16 yr old...

I was wondering today...about how things are changing...i mean...you are aware of the change happening around you...but now its like...someone just put the car of life directly into top gear...and you are just speeding away...!

There were so many instances today which got me into that "should I do this or not" frames...
Strange isnt it....how it hits you one fine day....


I look in the mirror and i dont see that 16 year old boy anymore...
I remember those days...and the way things used to be...much simpler than now...a bit slower and carefree than now...
I mean...the top discussion i remember having at that time...around the year of 2000 i think...when we were just figuring out what the internet really was...and what exactly was this thing called "hotmail"
Our hang out discussions were related to how we could do something cool with the internet and i think back at that time...we were planning to start a website that was like a directory of all the things you would need in the town you lived..like details of hotels...shops...etc...

And today...in 2009...I can virtually LIVE on the internet...!
Was just reading about BING and Google Wave...taking communication to a different level now...

The thing with the internet age is that you dont feel the need to go back at any point of time..i mean...who wants to use a bulky desktop when you hav a laptop now...or use the 2 mb hotmail when you have a 7 Gb+ Gmail...which is soo unlike real LIFE...You always want to go back in time when it comes to your LIFE!

Strange...but true...

And I am 24 now...my discussions revolve around career options...money...people getting married...how i will be married...love...and still pretty much internet...but in form of Facebook,Twitter and Orkut...

You think about those days gone...and you laugh over it now...but you would give anything to live that time again ,wont you?

ZooZoo Dumb

So we live in the "ZooZoo" world now...and apparently everyone is talking about the new Vodafone ads that O&M has craftily done...wiping out the "pug" campaign altogether...sheer work of genius...must say...

What surprises me is that every success story has something or the other going wrong with it...As they say...nothing can be 100%...you always leave some gaps...

The company got a PETA award it seems for removing the dog off the campaign and introducing the new characters...I dont see the point in this story...when PETA says that some of the dogs where abandoned after the "fad" for these pugs went out...and they would like to thank Vodafone for completely removing the ads and spreading the message that there are alternative ways to make advertisements without using animals (As if we dint know that...!)
Plus...with the "pug" ads out...wont ALL the dogs be abandoned now since the fad is completely off ????

How senseless can these people be...just trying to cash in on the campaigns' success and trying to get some attention!

Now..let me tell you...I love Vodafone...have been using its service since the "MaxTouch Orange" days...and i simply adore the brand..(admit it..it has class!)

But with steps like these...they are really not doing all that good a job...

I recieved a message from Vodafone today...and it went on like this...

"FREE STD!! Now get 49 mins of STD to any phone in the country absolutely free for a monthly rental of only Rs.49. To activate sms ACT 49 to 111(tollfree)."

Now...when my STD rate is Re. 1 ....how dumb can you be to activate this service????
Dont they think twice before sending such offers to customers?

Sanely drunk...and career options of my prospective wife to be...

Was sitting with some friends for dinner the other day and about half a drink of vodka got one of the guys to start talking...
(Its interesting what all topics you can touch in this world when you are "slight" drunk...u know..not the "talli" phase...the lighter times..you know whats happening around you and you are not simply blabbering irrelevant stuff...i think you can have some of the best conversations of your life in that phase...!)

"You know...Everyone knows drinking too much affects your liver...its bad for your health...but still we drink...its like we wanna prove whoever claimed it that he was wrong...so CHEERS to that! Lets prove him wrong...!!"
And he raises his glass...up high...

"Are you sure it was a HE who claimed it and not a SHE?" said another friend raising his glass....

Ignoring to comment on this...the first guy went on again...
"You know what...I hope i get married to a DOCTOR...I mean...wont it be great to have a doctor in the house itself...no medical expenses!! Damnn....I hope i get married to a doctor!!"

And that put me into a thought process...


If i had to choose a person i would spend the rest of my life with based on her career/job...here are some of the top contenders...

• A DOCTOR: Naaaa....marrying a doctor is not a good thing i feel...(unlike my drunk friend)...mainly because...you wont really save on medical bills...coz you hardly fall that "gravely" sick in your young age...and if you plan to marry a doc considering the "medical bills"advantage for OLD age...then might as well get one of your kids into the medical field..that way...by the time he is grown up...you are almost dead...and ready to be his guinea pig for all the medical illnesses...the longer you are alive..the better a doctor he has grown out to be!

• A SOFTWARE ENGINEER: this one cud be cool...Now...i think this kinda girl will understand me ...i mean...she is tech friendly...career friendly...used to long working hours...and would definitely be smart enough...Plus i think...being an Engineer myself...and hating the "techincal" side of it...she could get a chance to change my mind abt it! (Now that will be a healthy fight to have!)
  

• A FASHION MODEL/ACTRESS: Now now...i don think ANY guy would deny that this is his ultimate dream bride...so is mine...i mean....JUST IMAGINE...! (and i would leave the rest for imagination...)

• A MBA GRADUATE : This one could be cool...since i myself have an MBA degree..but only if she earns a lot...atleast 4-5 times more than me! (Yes....im not those insecure-guy-about-his-wife-doing-better types...i welcome increased income instead...) Also since...it is argued that MBA's are responsible for ruining the present economy and pulling it to recession...i think me and wife can tactfully device new plans to ruin the economy more...collectively! (Ha ha ha...one more thing...my life would be a whole mess of budgets,strategies and aimless research!)

• A FINANCIAL ANALYST : Now i think this would be a great person to marry...a person who understands numbers...mainly because i dont! (ohh...i soo dont!) To top this....if the girl is one who has working knowledge of the investment sector (u knw....how these so called "investment plans" and "insurance schemes" have soo many fine prints you dont know of and will never know of...!) I mean...i came to know recently that you can earn more insurance premium just by deciding a right date to start the plan! So...if u have a finance expert in the house...Now thats something...afterall its MORE money in you pocket!

PS:- I dont intend to hurt the sentiments of any of the professionals through this post and this may please be taken as lightly and in good humour as far as possible...
Plus...a major criteria which i haven't mentioned in any of the above is that you first have to immensely beautiful! So...nothing professional there anyway...
:-P

time will tell the story..

If you did one right thing...say...a good deed...you would probably remember it for the rest of your life...try not to spoil that moment..keep it in your mind...and let it remain as perfect as it made you feel at that time...

Was out of net for the past 3 days...and since "web" occupies a large part of my life's schedule these days...I was feeling a bit lost...I still dont get people who dont feel the need to be connected...i mean...in these times of "impatience" as they call it...how can you not be "online"!

Anyways...I have come to realize that everything in this world happens in a predefined mesh of sequences...and your actions and reactions are a direct reflection of everything that you are supposed to do...
You would better understand this concept if you have seen "The Curious Case of Benjamin Button"
I mean...ever wondered why you got up at the time you got up today...or why did you take a cab when you could have taken a bus..why you wore red over blue today...small things like these..trivial things that form critical factors to a holistic story of your life...

I have realised that how much ever you PUSH for things to happen...they will not...unless you are meant to have it...or unless its the time for you to have it...
By streching the mesh...going after the same thing like a spoilt child of 3 years who just wants to have the toy sports car...you are just frustrating yourself...little realising...that its just a toy car...something that you will not even want when you are 15...by then probably you would be running after a cricket bat!

I think the best part of loving someone is that you didnot work towards getting that person in your life...and even as things change...from wanting a toy car to a cricket bat...to a new mobile phone..and then to a brand new car...the feelings for that person have remained the same...
In the end...whatever you have...and you dont have...doesnt matter...when you know you love that person irrespective of all these trivial things...

I have been waiting all my life for my story to unfold...every day a bit closer...I dont know how it will end...or where it will end...but i do know...that my Life has something good to offer...simply because...if it was bad...or whenever i felt it would end badly...Life has always proved me wrong in the end!

A big SMILE...Because I can...!

When Jerry Seinfeld was asked why he wanted to shelve down a descent and plush bungalow and build a new one for himself more bigger and better looking...costing him almost double the amount...his simple reply to that, with a faint smile, was "Because I can."

I like those three words..."BECAUSE I CAN"...highlights the thin line between what you want in life..what is necessary...and what you can actually achieve...

Life has generally turned slow these days...and my final publishing of this post today after a good 11 days shows my height of laziness...
But i like SLOW...idle time...a stage of self contemplation and peace...

Anways...finally got out of the house today and had some fun with friends...a loud dinner...and a looongg drive through the night..

Was just thinking today,while helping a whining friend recover, about how people say things like "we met...met again...and then 'one thing let to another'...and stuff happened"
I never got this statement called 'one thing let to another'
I mean...how can u just say it...everything that you do and dont do is in your control...always...you just cant say that things got outa hand....its like giving an excuse for the sins YOU committed...
Makes me wanna tell them...how come people like me never come across this 'one thing let to another' syndrome...Its because we know where to get ourselves involved and where not to...!
I mean yeahh...sure...i am tired for love to happen to me...the RIGHT kinda love...the "makes your world go round" kinda love...but i atleast dont regret doing anything stupid...
But i dint tell him all this (i think is should hav!)...just sipped my cold coffee...and stared at his sad face...


Was taking a ride alone in the bus today...something about the music playing i think...was remembering some good times...and how wonderful things can be...but as they say..."the first step towards being happy is to stop expecting things"

I think most of our sorrows are a twisted tale of unfullfilled expectations...Good things will happen...believe me they will...but give them the right time...

I am glad that after 11 days of trying to publish this post...I am finally hittin the publish button tonight with a big smile on my face...

To more good times and unexpected happiness ahead...a big CHEERS!

Incomplete: The Begining...

Havent blogged in days...and its not like i have been studying continuously or have been busy with something...but its just that when there are exams round the corner...you just seem to be blocked...
Theres always that "exam" thing hovering over and over...


Finally burst the bubble where i couldnt take it anymore...i mean commonnn...who studies 14 days before the exam for just one subject!
So then...this is enough....i need a bit of relaxed time...

Attended a college friends engagement the other day...its amazing to see two people who complete each other come together...especially when you somewhere care for them...
Its an awesome feeling...hard to describe...nice to experience though...

It also reminds me of one of the worst regrets i have in my life...
I can never change NOT attending my best friends wedding...and what ever i do...however "not favorable" the situation was...I can never change the fact i was not there...anyways...

The music is playing right now...and the problem is that with every song...I feel a rush to stop writing...which ill be doin right now...and continue this post later...

(If this seems incomplete to you...then wait for the next post...more "incompleteness" follows...)